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I wanted to be alone. Like
contact with water and constructive relationships... I consider it
essential to my life, to my well-being.
--Dan L.--
Maybe you want to get away from your normal life
for a while - to rediscover who you are, or just get some much-needed
alone time. Maybe your relationship has ended, wreaking havoc on your
plans for that dream trip to Africa. Maybe your best friend backed out of
accompanying you to Asia, or perhaps for any number of reasons you've
found yourself suddenly solo.
You can see the world anyway. Not only can you
see it alone - you probably should, at least once in your life. Encounter
moments and places and people with your undivided attention: snap shots of
a skyline, a midnight drink in a basement bar, a haggle in a market - no
feedback, no diversions, just the experience.
The truth is, most people find themselves without
a travel partner at some point, whether by accident or choice. The
prospect of going it alone can be daunting, but guides and help are always
there when you need them, and the freedom of making your own decisions
without having to consider a companion can outweigh any disadvantages.
This being the case, solo travel is a
fast-growing trend. Both single and partnered people of all ages are more
independent than ever, and they are reluctant to let the lack of a
significant other or scheduling conflicts keep them from seeing the world.
Planning is the key to an unforgettable trip.
Wherever you're headed, do as much advance preparation as possible.
Research your destination, and be aware of its culture and traditions; for
instance, in many Middle Eastern countries it's mandatory to wear
appropriate clothing, and women are strongly discouraged from traveling
alone. Knowing in advance how you'll get from place to place will help
make your journey safe and enjoyable.
For an independent trip, a travel agent can be
your best friend. They are very familiar with single travelers, as now an
estimated 1 in 4 travelers goes alone, according to the Travel Industry
Association of America. Agents offer helpful suggestions, get you the best
deals and values, and connect you with reputable guides.
Many tour companies that your agent works with
now cater to singles and specific age groups, often employing staff of
similar ages. Tours offer more flexibility than you may realize, too - you
can join a tour that assists you with every aspect of your vacation, or
one designed for completely independent travelers; again, you are joining
a large and important part of the travel market, and your agent will know
how to make sure you have the kind of experience you're counting on.
Not sure what to do on your trip? Investigate
ecotours, spa vacations, and adventure travel like hiking, kayaking, or
rafting. Learn to scuba dive or cook, bathe in a hot spring in Iceland, or
go on safari in Tanzania. Even if you just want to relax on a beach - its
100% your decision, so work with your travel agent to create a trip you
can really get excited about.
Cruising is also a great way for singles to
travel. The range of activities is so extensive that there's no avoiding
making friends while you participate, you can't get lost, and you can
relax knowing you're safe at all times. A variety of companies offer
singles cruises - just ask your travel agent.
At first, travel can seem expensive for the
singles, because many rates are based on double occupancy. The good news
is that most companies can place single people of the same gender, or
other criteria you find acceptable, in accommodations together, so you
save on single supplements. And if you don't want to share, you may be
able to avoid paying a single supplement altogether by traveling during
low tourist seasons, when companies are more flexible with their rates.
Talk to your agent to uncover your options.
For budget travelers, hostels are great places to
meet people. They provide clean and cheap accommodations, and there's a
good chance you'll meet a fellow traveler with whom you can share grocery
and laundry costs.
Also consider buying a travel guide geared toward
single travelers. Restaurants and activities listed in these guides are
typically frequented by other independent travelers, and you'll have
plenty of opportunities to meet people, if you'd like. While you are
traveling, read the local paper to find lesser-known activities and
events, which are usually one-of-a-kind, authentic opportunities to learn
more about a culture.
Your first night in a new place can be
intimidating, but you have several ways to make it less so. While safety
may seem questionable, wandering the streets during the day is a good way
to orient yourself, as long as you stay in the right neighborhoods. Before
you head out, check with hotel staff to be sure you're aware of areas to
avoid, and remember the hotel address in the event that you get lost -
tucking a copy of the hotel's business card in your pocket is always a
smart strategy. And if you do happen to get lost, remember that everything
is an adventure... and it will make a great story.
Staying in a large hotel can make it difficult to
meet fellow guests, but hotel staff will usually be happy to introduce you
to other travelers, assuming you want some company. Most resorts have
activity co-coordinators, so if you get to know them, you'll meet people
in no time.
Talking to strangers could be easier than you
think - and you may not have a choice in the matter. People generally
don't hesitate to speak to someone who's alone, and some of your most
memorable travel experiences may come from spontaneous invitations to join
a group for a meal or special outing. A smile and a little eye contact go
a long way, even if you don't speak the local language. And while eating
alone is something a lot of people don't enjoy, there's no reason to hide
away in a hotel room with take-out food. Being comfortable on your own is
a skill you can develop, and you can get started by choosing a lively cafe
or bistro with lots of people. If you feel conspicuous, consider sitting
at the counter, where you can enjoy a drink or watch your food being
prepared. Take something to read, or simply indulge in people-watching.
Safety is important for any traveler, but more so
if you are alone. Be aware of everything going on around you - watch the
television, read the news, talk to your concierge or guide. When you walk,
keep your head up and walk confidently. Pay attention to what the locals
wear and dress like they do, so you fit in.
Talk to your travel agent about what to wear,
cultural etiquette, and State Department or other government-issued
warnings for your destination - understanding all these aspects of travel
equally is important to maintain your safety. That said, traveling safely
is easy with a little common sense: never leave your luggage unattended,
don't leave valuables in your room, don't drink excessively or accept
questionable drinks or food, and keep your money in a money belt worn
under your clothes. Always have a backup plan and make sure someone is
familiar with your itinerary - even if it's a quick call or email back
home. Once you've thought through all the safety scenarios, you get to
relax and enjoy your trip.
On the bright side, even many destinations like
Egypt no longer bat an eye at a woman who dines alone, and despite
standard safety concerns, the 21 st century offers any independent
traveler new freedoms and opportunities they've never had before.
Traveling alone inherently means you'll have many
moments to think, meditate, or just let your mind wander. Keeping a
journal of your experiences make take some discipline, but writing daily
will fill the time en route to a new stop on your journey and will also be
an invaluable record of your trip. If you're so inclined, consider your
journal just as important, or more so, than a camera in documenting your
time - once you re-read where you've been and what you've done, you'll
have no trouble recalling your experiences.
Speak to anyone who's traveled alone, and they'll
tell you that one of the best perks is that you can pick up and go
whenever and wherever you want - complete freedom, no distractions, and
endless possibilities. So if you've always dreamed of going somewhere, it
may be best not to wait for someone to come with you. Just plan the trip
and go - traveling alone is one of the most unique and fulfilling
experiences any soul could ever have.
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