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An increasing number of couples are choosing
destination weddings over traditional "white gown and rehearsal dinner"
weddings. Destination weddings provide a fun opportunity to reunite family
and friends in a truly amazing setting or to celebrate a private ceremony
in an unforgettable locale.
With destination weddings representing approximately ten percent of all
weddings, it is easier to find more cruise lines and resorts offering
robust and attractively priced packages especially designed for wedding
parties.
But destination weddings take considerable
planning, and the best accommodations are not always available to last
minute shoppers. The earlier you begin to plan your wedding, and the more
experienced and professional assistance you have, the greater your chances
of pulling off a hassle-free, exotic wedding. Use this guide as an
introduction to destination weddings that you can take to your travel
agent to begin planning your own personal idea of perfection. A
professional travel consultant skilled in the details of destination
weddings is invaluable. Using your travel consultant as a contact point
provides you with a "one stop shopping" opportunity. A travel consultant
can ensure that you are presented with a range of destinations and
options, as well as assemble a travel package for the wedding party that
is the best possible value. An experienced travel consultant can also
provide you with wedding planners local to your chosen destination to
handle the logistics of the ceremony and reception, however minimalist or
involved.
The
most important decision in planning a destination wedding is the location.
Some couples choose a destination that they have already vacationed or
visited, while other couples choose somewhere new - hoping to create brand
new memories they will always relate to their wedding day. Many have had a
dream setting in mind since their engagement. Some of the most popular
destinations are the beaches of the Caribbean, Hawaii and Mexico, while
others prefer historic settings or national parks. Extreme activity and
sports-themed weddings are also considered destination weddings, and
couples can take their vows while skydiving or scuba diving, or the
ceremony can take place at a very non-traditional venue like a NASCAR
race. For those who want to travel to Europe, consider England, which
boasts the shortest flight to Europe and romantic settings like manor
houses or castles, while Italy is known for scenic villa and winery
weddings. Couples with a more limited budget may enjoy destinations like
Las Vegas or Florida, which are popular for all-inclusive weddings. A
higher budget will afford an exotic wedding in Fiji or Australia.
Travel dates and trip length are major factors in
choosing a location. Will you and your guests want to fly, drive or take a
train? Traveling out of the country will require more time as well as
passports or other documentation for couples and guests. Some will choose
to have their wedding at a closer location, and then splurge on a dream
honeymoon once guests head back home. Before you are set on anything,
though, check with your travel professional, as some hotel or resort
packages include a free honeymoon if the couple commits to a certain
number of rooms or guests for the wedding.
The couple planning a destination wedding must
also take weather and season into consideration. Beach weddings can be
spectacular, but weather conditions change quickly and can be uncertain.
Couples wishing to marry in the Caribbean have hurricane season to
consider and may opt for an island like Aruba, which is out of the
hurricane belt during the fall months. Finally, planning your ceremony
during a destination's peak travel season can mean crowded resorts and
perhaps a less intimate backdrop for the ceremony. Given your special
itinerary, your travel consultant can make recommendations or help you
narrow down your destination wish-list.
Destination weddings can range from amazingly
inexpensive, and far less than a traditional wedding, to very costly. Once
you have an idea of where you would like to be married, analyze your
budget. Carefully assess the costs of travel, accommodations, activities
and meals. Decide how many guests you can truly afford at the wedding and
whether or not you will pay for any part of their travel. If you are
hoping for a crowd of guests and/or expect them to pay for any expenses,
planning early and sending travel information well in advance is a must!
If cost is an important factor, your Global
Services, Inc. can offer a variety of options in any destination. It is
possible and often very desirable to take a minimalist, stress-free
approach to your destination wedding. In many instances, all you'll need
are a justice of the peace or similar official, a wedding license, and a
romantic spot. Don't let price be the ultimate determinant of your dream
ceremony. Be creative.
At home or in an exotic locale, the guest list
can pose problems. Many couples choose to elope and skip invitations. They
simply send an announcement when they return home and maybe throw a fun
party so everyone can still get together and celebrate. Other couples find
that destination weddings give them the option to invite only a few close
friends or family members, so they are forced to reduce their guest list a
very manageable number of special invitees. And still others will send
invitations out to a larger number, placing the decision solely in guests'
hands (and perhaps their wallets) to attend the wedding. Keep in mind that
some resorts only allow guests over age 16 or 18, so an adult-only
location may not work for guests with families.
Who can you expect to attend a faraway wedding?
Sometimes the RSVP's are quite surprising. Many who are invited actually
attend in order to combine their own vacation with the couple's special
day. Conversely, some may not have the financial means or the ability to
take off work to travel. Most hotels will offer special room rates to
couples and their guests or a certain number of rooms may be part of the
wedding package itself.
Give some forethought to how long guests will
stay at the wedding site. Couples can travel alone and have guests arrive
a day or two later, or everyone can travel together as a group. If guests
arrive a few days before the wedding, fun options are arranging a group
tour or sightseeing in smaller groups, if you have a lot of people, or
guests with different interests. You may also plan nothing at all, and
allow guests some quiet vacation time of their own before the wedding; in
this case, consider sending along a destination guide (often available
free from your travel agent) so they can choose their own itinerary.
As you might imagine, the legal requirements for
far-away nuptials vary greatly by destination. Most popular destination
wedding locations in the United States and abroad have streamlined the
process and provide very solid information on their consular or official
tourism web sites. Some destinations require a residency period before you
can be married. In places like France and Fiji, couples may have to spend
up to 40 days in residency before the wedding, which can make things very
difficult and much more expensive. Other locales only require a waiting
period of 3 days or less and are far more manageable. Your travel
consultant will assist you with these details, and again - this is where
having an expert help really counts! There are no end of stories of brides
who end up with a great honeymoon, and a civil ceremony that follows at
home because they were not prepared.
Couples will need documentation before they
travel, and often a few months before the event itself. Required documents
may include birth certificates, passports, previous marriage certificates
or divorce decrees if applicable. Your local contacts will provide
information on requirements for blood tests or applications for licenses.
American diplomatic and consular officers are not permitted to perform
marriages. Marriages abroad are almost always performed by local civil or
religious officials. In general, marriages that are legally performed and
valid abroad are also legally valid in the United States, but in any
event, inquiries regarding the validity of a marriage abroad should be
directed to the attorney general of the state in the United States where
the bride and groom live.
Minimum marriage age varies from one country to
another. Persons under the age of 18 must, as a general rule, present a
written statement of consent executed by their parents before a notary
public. Some countries require the parental consent statement to be
authenticated by a consular official of that foreign country in the United
States. In short, don't underestimate the rules and regulations you'll
need to address, sometimes far in advance. And you always have the option
of marrying at home before or after a non-binding ceremony at your
destination - you may find this to be the best choice to ensure that
you'll enjoy every minute of the trip.
Once you choose a destination and have a good
idea what it will cost and who you are going to invite, you can start
planning the ceremony details. Wedding coordinators can make a lot of the
arrangements, and many resorts and cruise lines even have their own
wedding departments. If an on-site wedding planner is not available, think
about hiring your own planner to help with details, research and
correspondence. Destination wedding planners will often offer traditional
choices for flowers, food and music to fit a wide variety of budgets.
Wedding details that may have taken months to plan for a hometown wedding
can often be chosen in just a matter of minutes at the destination itself.
If you are on a budget, remember that many hotels, beaches, outdoor
settings and the like are inherently decorated or beautiful in their own
right - this is one step you may be able to skip.
Regardless of your location, however, many of the
decisions remain the same. Do you want a rehearsal dinner the night
before? Do you want a formal reception or just a table for two at a
romantic restaurant? Do you want to wake that morning and leisurely get
dressed and married or do you want to enjoy a spa treatment or massage?
Music can be planned in advance or chosen on site, or some couples may
choose no music at all and rely on things like waterfalls or ocean waves
as the backdrop. Food can be catered and include ethnic or theme-oriented
foods applicable to the locale or setting.
Like any wedding, attire can be formal and fancy
or simple and casual. Clothing can reflect local culture and tradition, or
you may prefer to still "walk down the aisle" in a more elegant wedding
gown. If flying, formal wear like a wedding gown or tuxedo should be
packed as a carry-on, if possible. If it is very important to arrive with
particular items of clothing or other accessories, carry them onto the
plane and avoid the heartbreak of a lost gown - or plan the wedding with
time to allow for delivery of lost luggage, just in case. To avoid
traveling with wedding wear, clothing can be shipped separately and in
advance (this may result in a small storage fee at the hotel), or attire
can sometimes be rented at the hotel or resort.
Photography, video and flower choices are
abundant and often quite similar to traditional wedding choices. Couples
can choose to hire a photographer, or they can simply rely on guests to
capture more impromptu photos. Many all-inclusive wedding plans also
include a photography package and video. Some videos will even include
local footage of the area, like dolphins swimming or a video introduction
of the resort or island. Flower arrangements are usually provided by a
local florist and can often be chosen before you arrive or on site from
photos and catalogs. Couples can also choose from popular pre-written
wedding vows or write their own.
Be sure to inquire whether you need to supply
your own witnesses for the ceremony, or whether the resort can provide
them for you. Also remember that many wedding packages do not include
gratuities for services provided by ministers, bartenders or
transportation companies, so budget accordingly.
As you finalize arrangements, remember that some
of the same tips that apply to traditional weddings also apply to
destination weddings: avoid over-planning and allow ample free time for
you and your guests to enjoy the wedding. Group activities can be a fun
way to spend time with everyone, but don't overwhelm yourselves or guests
with a rigid schedule or a strenuous activity the day before the wedding.
Most importantly, remember that this is your day. Plan your dream wedding
and make it your own. That's what destination weddings are all about.
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